The introduction

I want to preface this by saying I am not a mental health professional, I will not give anyone advice on what they should do. But I highly recommend speaking to a therapist or other mental health professional about what you are going though or have gone through the past gets heavy let’s unpack it.

I’ll start with a few fun facts: My husband and I have three cats and two dogs. We might add little humans to the mix one day but for now we’re loving our fur babies to the fullest.

My favorite pass time is hiking to waterfalls every chance I get! I have seen 85 waterfalls total since I’ve turned 18 and I’m hoping to make that 100 by the end of next year! For my 30th birthday i get to finally visit portland OR I can’t wait. There is something so peaceful about water in general and waterfalls are my favorite because they are never the same as they were yesterday and neither are we. We are forever evolving based on our experiences and even if it’s the same fall you’ll never see it the same twice!❤️

My Husband Jacob and I started dating 10/13/2014 we met at the dirty bird (Red Robin) where we worked at the time. It all started because my best friend had the balls to send him a Snapchat from my phone that said “wanna hangout sometime?” Thank you Tia.😘 Five years later on a hike at the sleeping bear dunes on 10/12/2019 Jacob popped the question and with no hesitation I said yes!

On October 8th 2021 I had the pleasure of marrying the love of my life. As cliché as it is he is my home, my safe place, my constant steady rock through every storm. Being your wife will always be one of my greatest joys in life, even on the days you make me want to choke you.😂

Here’s where it gets a little messy so bear with me….

My mom and dad were married shortly after I was born and divorced by time I was 2 so I am the only child between them. My mom went on to have two more children and my dad and step mom had one child. Moral of the story is I’ve been blessed to be the big sister to three beautiful little girls that aren’t so little anymore😩 and on my wedding day I was bound and determined to finally get them all in a photo.

These ladies amaze me and I am so proud of the young women they are all becoming. Watching them grow up and get their own senses of humor has been the best! They are all funny as hell and we be can bond over the trauma for life. There’s no other people in the world that know what you went through like your siblings because they went through it too, maybe not in the exact same ways because of our age gaps but they get it and that’s a bond that can’t be broken.

I believe in women having a strong circle of women around them that keeps them going. And sometimes you need separate ones for separate stages in life. These ladies below were my I DO crew it’s composed of my favorite cousin Samantha, people who say they don’t have favorites are liars don’t trust them.🤨🤣 My three best friends from high school Abby, Katherine, and Gabe. Last but certainly not least my Best friend soulmate Tia. Lucky for me I ended up finding both of my soulmates at Red Robin. Tia and I would later celebrate this by getting the coordinates to Red Robin tattooed on our arms! NO REGRETS BABY😂

I couldn’t just tell you about the iconic tattoos and not show you….to top it off we were one foot in the grave after drinking the night before!🤦🏻‍♀️

Once I became a nurse I found another circle of women to add to my village. Little did I know when I met them, was that we were about to survive the first pandemic in 100 years together. It was the most humbling and terrifying experience I’ve been through in my adult life. You will never know the things we saw and experienced unless you were there next to us. Talk about bonding over shared trauma. Luckily we’ve had a lot of beautiful memories together since that year.

So why bother with the past when clearly I have a built a life filled with adventure, love, family and happiness? Because a house is only as stable as it’s foundation and boy oh boy could mine use a lot of maintenance. The older we get the more we build the more we place in the house, on the house and around it. I just want a stable foundation to continue to build on. By identifying these faults I can fix them before it all crumbles without warning. I’m still learning that I’m worth the hassle and the work that comes with maintaining healthy relationships in my life and weeding out the things and people that do not serve that purpose anymore.

Are you ready for some motherlovin healing to be done?

Let’s get unpacking…..